Catch Up & July’s Searches

The GYN Appointment — I had my annual GYN appointment this past week. With a different GYN from last year. I liked the GYN I saw last year, but there were a couple things that irritated me. The most insulting part was the nurse who came in to prep the room for the next patient before I was finished dressing after the exam. That just stuck in my craw. Second was, I had to pay for parking. As the year wore on and I tried to get prescriptions for the vitamins I was taking, it was a big hoopla because it took the doctor a week to approve the prescription (for a vitamin!!), then their office wouldn’t fax or call the prescription into the pharmacy, they wanted me to come pick it up… drive 40 minutes round trip AND PAY PARKING? I think not. I was pretty sure I was going to move on. Then it took them a month and a half to fax an authorization to my insurance company so I could be referred to a reproductive endocrinologist. My insurance company (!!) was even badgering them for it.

Then I worked with my RE’s office and I saw how gynecological care should be and I realized there really is no excuse for the shoddy treatment that so many women endure to get such an important annual exam. I asked so many of my female co-workers if they had a GYN they liked and would recommend, most of them just waved their hand and said, “Well, I guess he/she is OK, but I should probably search for a new one…” I think it’s kind of like if you’ve had blurry vision your whole life, you just deal with it. You know that corrective lenses could probably make things better, because you’ve heard about it, but you have no idea what crystal clear vision is like until you experience the difference for yourself.

Anyway, as someone who’s received stirrup-care of one sort or another 21 times (at best count) since June of last year (more times than some couples have sex in a year — giddy up!!), with a full-spectrum of paraphernalia & caregivers — some of the absolute worst and thee absolute best — I can honestly say that I am optimistic about the “new” GYN and his staff. His bedside manner is awesome. The exam part of it was quick (fastest I’ve ever had — a good thing in this instance) and second only to my RE for gentleness. The exam part of it was so fast, that I have no idea how he had time to note the things he told me afterward. In fact, I intentionally didn’t tell him a couple of things and he figured them out. He was good and he knew his shit. I was impressed. He also knew all the caregivers I’ve worked with over the years, and his opinions of them validated mine. I told Grace that it was as if I’d stopped by see an old friend that I’d forgotten I knew, which is really weird considering what I was there for. Oh, and parking was free. We’ll see how it goes over the next year.

The Wedding — On Friday night, we attended the wedding of some long-time friends. Well, one of them is a long-time friend, Tony’s known the guy since junior high (if not longer) and Tony was instrumental in getting his friend and the lady he married together. It was in 2006 that Tony and his buddy flew to Arizona. While at the airport, they met this lovely lady in line at security. They got to talking and his buddy flustered her so much that once she was through the line, she grabbed her shoes and left her purse and laptop on the conveyor belt. Tony urged him to go after her and get her phone number, he argued against it, not thinking she was interested, but at Tony’s insistence, he ultimately followed her, got her information… and the rest is history.

There’s this magnetic connection that I love to see in couples, the best way I can describe it is to say that it’s an unconscious body language thing. When one person in the relationship talks, the other leans in to hear. Or there’s always some sort of contact, whether it’s holding hands or knees resting against each other. Or there’s the eyes, when one is across the room the other is always seeking them. It’s a second-by-second intrinsic magnetic balancing act and the couples don’t even realize it’s taking place. It’s a mutual giving, adding to each other, rather than taking away. Tony’s parents have it with each other, Tony’s brothers have it with their wives, Tony and I have it, several of our friends have it in their relationships — and these two have it.

We’re so happy for them, and excited that they took this step together.

July’s Searches (listed in bold):

“my poor toe” — nooooo, MY poor toe. Funny thing you should mention that, yesterday I went to Walmart and pulled a deodorant off the rack to purchase. The spring loaded distributor shot the next deodorant in line off the shelf and torpedoed it with great force directly onto the toe I injured about a month ago. Man, that hurt so bad I stood there for a minute while my ears felt like they were going to explode and my eyes watered. Interesting about pain, huh, no matter where it is on the body, it always goes straight to the head. Then I ever so gently put the torpedo back on the shelf, along with the one I was going to buy and limped away.

club soda good for oily scalp?, shampoos for imflammed scalp, club soda or water after swimming? after swimming club soda hair treatment, no poo asian hair, is it okay to do an apple cider vinegar rinse after swimming? — OK, look. Here’s the deal, people, chlorine is probably one of the worst things you can do to your hair and scalp, aside from burning or frying it chemically, that is. So, yes, club soda, apple cider vinegar or just plain water is FINE. Shampoo is the second worst thing. I use a baking soda/water concoction. But if you must use shampoo, go with baby shampoo. Expect an adjustment period while your scalp figures out what the hell you just did (stopped irritating it) and expect any inflammation (or imflammation) to clear up within a couple weeks.

i got a hard black mole on my scalp — Are you sure you don’t got a tumor?

life’s oddities — well, thanks for that one, Google.

bad show mariah — her show wasn’t just bad, it was horrible. Save the cost of a concert ticket and just buy her CDs. You’ll actually get to listen to complete songs (instead of medleys) and she’ll likely even do some vocal acrobatics (instead of making your eyes water because her voice is so weak).

metrostyle model with the gap in her teeth — Look, if you’re trying to hire her, let me just tell you, Metrostyle lost sales from me because I got so distracted by her teeth. I’m not saying gapped teeth are bad, I know some very lovely people who have gapped teeth. What I’m saying is that if one chooses modeling as a profession and said model is displaying clothes, it might be a fine idea for the model to keep her gapped teeth concealed behind her lovely, closed lips.

“someday i’ll laugh” — Why wait?



Filed under Health/Endo, I did something Special, Kid Quest, We're all searching for something

9 responses to “Catch Up & July’s Searches

  1. grrrace

    yeah! why wait? hehe.

    like i told you before, this is probably the most excited i’ve ever been to visit a GYN. hehe. i’m not going to go until i absolutely have to, but when i do, i’m sure i will love him. hehe. πŸ˜€

    oh, man. i HATE those spring-loaded display shelves. and sometimes i’m not even strong enough to put it back in. wtf. maybe they need to loosen the tension a tad.

    congrats to your friend and wife. πŸ™‚ they sound lovely. πŸ™‚

    You should just go now! Preventative maintenance or something — HA! I hope you like him as much as I did. I seriously couldn’t believe how fast the exam part of it was.

    That was the first time I’ve had trouble with those spring loaded dispensers, and for it to hit my TOE? Of ALL the places the stupid thing could have landed like, oh, how about the 20 yards around me that were empty?

    You’ve met our friends, he’s the guy who shares Tony’s birthday and she’s got all this thick, gorgeous curly hair… *rawr*

    ~Jammie J.

  2. Charmed

    I am SO glad you FINALLY found a good doctor. You deserve one more than any woman I know.

    all the no poo searches crack me up, lots of people want no poo.

    I really hope that he’s as good as I think he is… and his office staff are sooooo nice. (sigh) I don’t want to be disappointed yet again.

    People should just do the no poo, I was scared, too, at first, but am so incredibly happy with how my hair is these days! Just do it!

    ~Jammie J.

  3. Beth

    I hate going to my GYN. I’m lucky that mine sort of has a sense of humor, is very fast with his exams and has free parking. In Jersey, free parking is a luxury!

    I love to watch couples who have that magnetic connection you’re talking about. Especially when they think no one’s watching….wait…did I just admit publicly that I’m a voyeur??

    Sounds like your GYN is OK, but getting there is the unenjoyable part of the whole thing… well, and the exam itself is what it is.

    Yep, it’s fun to observe people… that’s not voyeurism, that’s people-watching! πŸ™‚

    ~Jammie J.

  4. Caryl

    So what are you saying? That you wasted your money a second time on a Mariah concert??
    Love you,

    Nope, once was enough for me, but according to the search (in bold text) it sounds like someone else is thinking about wasting their money. Or maybe they just wanted validation for their own bad experience?

    ~Jammie J.

  5. grrrace

    crap like that always happens… like when a bug flies into my eye. MY EYE. i mean, it could’ve flown ANYWHERE yet it lands in my EYE. wtf.

    oh, okay, i am pretty sure i know who you’re talking about, but you know how my memory’s a little … well, not so good. hehe. i’m pretty sure i know who it is. hehe.

    I guess there’s a reason they call it the bulls eye? hehe
    I sent you a picture, not only did you meet her, but we have a picture of just the three of us together. πŸ˜›

    ~Jammie J.

  6. I’m glad you found a better doctor. I’m all over that myself. I won’t tolerate a bad doctor. And after I talk to them, I’m sure the feeling is mutual. Good luck with all of your girlie parts. And maybe stop going to concerts of mediocre artists.
    I’m still getting the same blog hits but with more crape myrtle sap because of the season but the baby mockingbird and touch control lamp are neck and neck.

    It’s shocking how many people and women do tolerate a bad doctor. It also seems to be a challenge to get a doctor who has a good people working the front office and nurses.
    Haven’t been to a mediocre concert in three years, thank goodness. That’s when I saw Mariah and she wasn’t mediocre, she was terrible.
    I’m still sad about that baby mockingbird.
    ~Jammie J.

  7. Hey, my toe hurts today after scraping it white water rafting.

    Glad you like your new GYN. That’s an important relationship for women. Ellen has a great one as well.

    You have a poor toe, too? Poor thing!

    GYNs are very important, it’s too bad that so many women make do…

    ~Jammie J.

  8. tony

    I had a great time at the wedding too sweetie pie, sexy dancers we were, hehehehe
    love you

    The wedding was a great time. πŸ™‚

    ~Jammie J.

  9. I love my GYN… and I still haven’t been to see him in a few years. Not having insurance really sucks.

    I remember well my days of no insurance. They were not good days and the first GYN exam I ever had was during that time and it traumatized me for four years. *shudder*

    ~Jammie J.