Loathe & Love — 04/29/10 (updated)


*Apparently feeling the need to burn, baby, burn. I burned The roof of my mouth the other day. I followed that up by swiping my finger along the barrel of my hot, HOT curling iron, and then I very nearly got the side of my hand on the clothes iron. I’m giving a wide berth to the lit candles in our house right now… I don’t need to lose another chunk of hair from sliding it through a lit candle wick (like I did last December).

*Grapes that were proclaimed to be seedless by the store where I bought them, but weren’t.

* New law in Orange County: If you buy fish at the pet store, you have to register yourself as a fish owner. Something about bacteria… I’m hoping my eyes will stop rolling from exasperation at this new law soon. It’s been six days now.


*Summer sandals in fun colors.

* My husband, who intuitively seems to know when I’m feeling overwhelmed. I came home one day last week to discover that he had put away the dishes in the dishwasher and cleaned up the kitchen. Usually, those are my chores but sometimes he just takes over and does them. Sometimes, I like a man who knows how to take over. *rawr*

* My husband’s meat loaf. Seriously good stuff.

* These gorgeous things. Every time I’ve gone swimming this month, I’ve smelled this glorious jasmine-like scent. I finally figured out that the awesome smell was coming from these trees. I have no idea what they are, but they’re absolutely spectacular, both visually and olfactory.

* We saved four “feeder” goldfish from certain death. Got ’em at the pet store for $.27 each last Saturday. They’re pretty and a bargain. Let’s hope they’re around for long term, because the county knows we have them. ๐Ÿ™„

* I asked my boss if I can work earlier hours on Thursdays. My goal is to leave work in time to be able to participate in the aquatic exercise class at the gym. Tonight was my first night back since February. I was incredibly touched to be welcomed back so warmly by the instructor and classmates, especially given the reason I stopped going.

One Last Thing:

So far this year, it seems to be the running theme of learning to have grace when faced with situations beyond human control.

I’ve asked Tony’s permission to share with you his family’s needs, with a request for prayers and thoughts. His grandfather has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer which has spread to other organs. If that weren’t enough, he also has some broken ribs (he fell) and pneumonia.

Our prayer is that God will ease his pain, and bring some measure of comfort to him and the family, for the period of time that he has remaining on this earth. As well as provide his caretakers (his daughters) with wisdom and peace.

I’ve heard it said that getting old isn’t for sissies. In fact, my own grandpa said it when he was gettin’ on in years. Indeed, a truer statement has never been said: Getting old definitely isn’t for sissies.

**************Update — 04/30/2010**************
Tony’s grandpa passed away this afternoon shortly after 4 PM. He would have been 91 years old the end of May. I’d like to think that he’s now met Miracle, his 8th great-grandchild, in Heaven, who got there 4 weeks ahead of him. The dates of their passing are like bookends, April 1st and April 30th, into God’s hands.

It’s been a strange month.



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27 responses to “Loathe & Love — 04/29/10 (updated)

  1. stacey

    the trouble is: i am a sissy and getting sick and dying scares the crud out of me. either way you gotta get through it.

    i am sending prayers for tony’s grandpa. poor guy, i hope his suffering is relieved and he can heal or at least have peace.

    thanks for sending out the infertility 101 myths. it answered some questions i had myself, though i knew most of the things already.

    you and tony would be awesome parents and whether you go down that path or not, you are still loving and caring people to all around you. “parents” in a larger sense of the word.

    • stacey

      i am sorry to hear of tony’s grandfather’s death. i am so glad he no longer has to suffer. my prayers to the family, now that he is at peace and little miracle is guiding him into heaven.

    • I don’t much care for pain or discomfort, but it’s part of life. Dying isn’t scary for me; mostly, I think, because I know where I’ll be going. Better place than here, for sure. And Miracle is there. ๐Ÿ™‚

      I’m glad you found the 101 myths helpful. Thank you for the kind words.

  2. Caryl

    Some of my students are physically challenged. One of them got papers out of his bag and then crawled over to his chair a few feet away. At that moment, it struck my heart to see this full grown young man, who is always helping others with their English and has such a gentle spirit, crawling on the floor. I learned from him that day.

    Seems maybe a census won’t be needed in your area in the future. The government can just get their listing from the pet stores.
    Love you,

  3. So are you required to wear a big scarlet F on your clothes to denote you’re a fish owner? I can imagine people looking at you an whispering to their friends “she’s one of THOSE people”.

    I will definately pray for Tony’s grandpa and the family. Dealing with a loved one in failing health is never easy.

    • ๐Ÿ˜† The scarlet “F” could mean many things… I’d have to put a fish on it, probably, and then everyone would want to know if I were a Christian or a Fish Owner, and I’d have to say both. hehe

      Thanks for your prayers… the path from you to God is gonna get worn out from all the praying you’ve been doing for us.

  4. tony

    Thank you all for your prayers. And thank you sweetie for being who you are, love you sooooo much, NANANANANA

  5. Prayers for all of you as you go through this difficult time.

    I knew it! Fish owners unite, stand against the man! Geez, how money did they spend on that crazy law?

    • Thanks, lovely lady.

      I feel a fish uprising coming on. What if I breed my fish and sell them to the pet store, would I have to register as a spreader of bacteria, I wonder?

  6. Redfred

    We have a recomendation that you register as a fish owner with the water company because the periodically flush the system with chemicals that are harmless to humans but not good for fish. you then get an email / call to let you not to do a water change on that day…. but it could be a government plot to steal your identity and make you pay more taxes… are those black helecopters I hear.. must go now and put my Aloominum foil hat on ๐Ÿ˜‰ lol

    • Huh… I’ve never had a notice from the water company about that, maybe I should check into it. Yikes.

      Can you take a picture of your aluminum hat and send it to me? (Don’t send me that fat guy again, I’m soooo over him. ๐Ÿ˜› )

  7. Oh, Indeed, My Dear Jammie…I will attest to that last statement.
    I am soooo very sorry to read about Tony’s Grandpa. Pancreatic Cancer is incredibly difficult and to have Pneumonia and broken ribs on top of that….Oh My!…..May he be as comfortable as possible while making this passage. I feel for him and for his dear caretakers, too…Life is really really hard sometimes, isn’t it?
    My heart and my prayers go out to all of you, and especially, to Tony’s Grandpa….

    What a strange law that is!! I wonder why they felt the need to pass that law regarding fish??? I hope your lovely ones do BEAUTIFULLY with you and Tony..

    • Tony’s grandpa wasn’t comfortable those last days, not at all. He is at peace now.

      I’m wondering now if I shouldn’t go back and get a copy of the form I filled out. I can’t find anything about it online. So weird. The cashier said it was implemented a couple months ago, which must be true, because we bought some guppies back in December and didn’t have to fill out a form. So weird.

  8. tricia

    I’m so sorry. Getting old ain’t for sissies- that’s so true.


  9. awww … my the Lord give you His Grace and Mercy – as you guys remember Tony’s Grandfather … your prayers were indeed answered, weren’t they …

    (hugs) …

  10. py

    *A caring hug*
    I have read somewhere that sometimes God sends us messages through events that seem to be coincidences (when the truth is that they are more than coincidences).How coincidental that Miracle’s and Tony’s grandpa’s dates of passing are like book-ends. We would like to believe that Miracle and Tony’s grandpa are in safe and loving hands of God. May this alone bring you comfort and more grace.

    • I think you may be right. Thank you for the caring hug and your gentle words of encouragement. Your words brought comfort and grace… thank you.

  11. electrictracey

    My hearts go out to both of you for the losses you hav e experienced recently. I am still trying to deal with my own grief and know how overwhelming it can be. I pray the good Lord helps you cope in the best way possible. All my love

    • Thank you, Tracey. I’ve been thinking about you and praying for you… I miss you and wish I could be there for you. I am so very sorry for your loss and the insensitivity of your mom at such a time. We need to talk. I love you, girl. (biggest of hugs and shared tears to you.)

  12. Angi

    Sweetie, I am so sorry. Praying for Tony, you, and the rest of the family. And yes, Miracle and Tony’s grandpa are getting to know each other and sharing stories of the two of you:)

  13. grrrace

    Love you guys.