Pruning and Healing.

I did some yard work last weekend, pruning back some of my plants.

My gardenia tree bloomed so profusely this year, leaving a bunch of browned out, spent blooms at the end of its arms like crumpled, well used napkins. My guava tree actually fruited this year, but lost all its leaves in the process and my artichoke plant renewed itself, but didn’t produce any artichokes. My fig tree only made three figs, so I pruned that back pretty profusely in the hopes it will make more next year. My rose bush had dead heads galore, effectively stumping it as to what it was supposed to do next. I hadn’t paid attention to my geraniums and they had become long and gangly, with blooms and leaves only at the ends of three foot long tentacles.

My plants are the perfect example of how I let my life become this past year. Still growing, reaching for the sun, but the soul and roots need desperate attention. I let myself become unbalanced and uncentered.

Saija pointed out in the comments of the previous post that there must be so much around here that I’m doing. Yes, I would say so.

I make sure I swim laps every morning for 45 minutes, for obvious reasons (at least to me). Exercise is good for my health — emotional and physical. I check online job sources (monster,, EDD’s website, and a couple of others — if you know of others, please do let me know in the comments). I also make sure I get out of the house each day, if even for just a short drive and I’ve been doing little organizational projects around the house. And cooking.

This past week, I had lunch with my two bosses from the job I held four years ago, the bosses from whom I inherited my fish that I’ve come to love so much. That lunch was a big step for me (several reasons, which I won’t get into here), but it turned out to be a really positive experience, a healing experience. I’m so glad I reached out to them.

I also had lunch with a dear friend in San Diego on her 40th birthday. It was accidental on my part, I had forgotten it was her birthday, but it meant so much to me (and her, I think) to be a part of her day. Since I was in San Diego, I stopped by Sea World for a couple hours just to say “hi” to all the critters. You know how I love critters… and chocolate funnel cake.

I am at peace with where I’m at right now. I know the “right” job for me is out there, the timing just has to line up and I know it will. It’s happened too often in the past for it not to happen again.

In the meantime, I’m pruning my roots and healing my soul and, as my sister-in-law stated tonight, I’m also “networking” with all these lunches I’m doing. Networking is important.

As I tell Tony nightly, I’m very busy being unemployed!



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14 responses to “Pruning and Healing.

  1. grrrace


    This post makes me happy… Not because you feel that you’ve neglected yourself, obviously… but because you’re healing. πŸ™‚


  2. Angi

    I am so glad you are taking this time to just “be” and heal and dare I say it…. enjoy. πŸ˜‰

  3. I obtained most of my interviews off of I was looking for programming, so not sure about other specialties on there. From Monster I only received job offers to sell insurance for commission.

  4. I learned from the last time I was out of work that sometimes the best thing to do is just let God do His thing and He’ll take care of you. I’m sure He’s preparing you for the next big thing He has planned, and that it will be better than you could have imagined.

    May the Lord bless you and keep you, may His face shine upon you and be gracious to you, may He look upon you kindly and give you peace.

  5. Job boards I have looked at include- (a Dice affiliate) (a Dice affiliate)

    I still check careerbuilder once in a while but, like Monster, it’s full of work-at-home and insurance sales spam.

  6. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Keep taking good care of yourself like that. And your plants, too.

  7. But you sound GOOD, Jammie. And sometimes these breaks from a routine are really a good thing—it certainly sounds like it has been good for you evennthough you are not out in the work-force. You are working, my dear, on yourself!
    I hope your Fif Tree gives yoy lots and lots of figs next year!

    • It just seems like the right thing for me right now. You are right, of course, I’m working on myself. I hope that fig tree of mine fruits prolifically as well. Mmmm. Figs.