Love & Loathe – 08/19/10


* Packing for trips. I remember as a teenager it really wasn’t a big deal at all. I was such a well-traveled young thing. Somewhere in my 20’s, trip preparation turned into a huge, overwhelming monster filled with anxiety attacks so bad that I couldn’t even watch Expedia commercials on TV without feeling the start of an attack. In 2006, I finally conquered that anxiety, but trip preparation is still fraught with tension and stress for me — not something I enjoy. (sigh)


* York Peppermint Patties.

* Driving on the freeway yesterday morning in stop and go traffic, I was overpowered by the smell of fertilizer for about a mile. I love, love, love that there are still agricultural areas in this urban sprawl of Orange County.

* My weekly early day at work — Thursdays. Since I implemented my early day a few months ago, on those days, I’ve not yet encountered traffic in the morning, although I can see where it will start getting sticky. I love no traffic! When I get to work, it’s so quiet that first hour I’m there. I love quiet! Plus, the toilets are all clean and the lids are still up — first butt on the toilet seat for the day? Awesome!

* My new GYN’s office called me yesterday. Freaked me right out, because in all my years, the only time a doctor’s office calls is if something is abnormal. Turns out, they just wanted to ask me if I’d had a chance to schedule my mammogram, because they wanted to put it on their calendar to follow-up on getting a copy of the report. I’m taking this new doctor/patient relationship step-by-step, and I must say that was one mark in their favor.

One Last Thing:

Tomorrow, the 20th, marks our 5th wedding anniversary. In some ways, I can’t believe that we’ve only been married for 5 years. But in other ways, we fit each other so well it seems as if I can’t remember, or don’t want to remember, a time that we weren’t part of each other’s lives.

I joked with a friend the other night that I haven’t taken his last name because I’m a bitter and stingy person. In order to wear his family’s last name, one has to be kind, understanding and generous — so not me! All joking aside, though, Tony’s patience and love for me are healing balms to my emotionally injured self, and his kindness and generosity are inspirations to me. He truly cares about the people in his life and I am incredibly blessed that I am at the top of his list.

It’s been a rough year for us, given our miscarriage, loss of a loved family member, and job situations, and there are times when I wonder why things have to be so hard. But as tough as it has been, and still is, he is the only person in this world I want by my side — whatever we may go through.

We entrusted each other with our hearts 5 years ago. A better decision we could not have made.

We are so very blessed. Happy Anniversary to us.



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22 responses to “Love & Loathe – 08/19/10

  1. stacey

    i seem to be first two weeks in a row πŸ™‚

    ahh, trip preparation. i miss those carefree days of my youth where i had no anxiety or fears, especially when it came to travel. i wish there was a way to get that feeling when needed. tap into it somehow…

    there is nothing in this world that is better than being with the right partner. it is beautiful to see how much you love each other and how much more you love each other every day.

    • What is with the trip prep anxiety? I guess there’s just so much to plan for (pet care, packing, etc.) it’s understandable, but so frustrating!

      I love my partner. He’s the best for me. πŸ™‚

  2. Happy Anniversary! Wishing you so many more happy ones together!

    I know your year has been tough, but perhaps the Lord was giving you and Tony opportunities to strengthen your love for each other. Certainly a lot of that stuff would have come between some couples.

    I love getting into work before everyone else. Having an hour of peace to do my administrative work before the day gets rolling is so nice.

    My wife is fond of saying you need to pack as much stuff for a 2 night trip as a week long trip. Is that so for you too?

    • Thanks for the Happy Anniversary wishes… yeah, I don’t know, we’re just plugging along together.

      I sometimes wish I could make every day an early day, but my bosses seem to need more assistance late afternoon than they do morning.

      I’m the reverse, I usually only pack enough for 2 nights for a 2 week trip, then re-wear. But figuring out what I want for 2 nights, and what cross-wears well… that’s the stress point. πŸ˜€

  3. Redfred

    “… and there are times when I wonder why things have to be so hard” – EXACTLY! I was going to post that same sentiment yesterday but run out of times. I know they say that if a thing is worth having it’s worth working for but really does everything it have to be an epic battle. Just once in a while it would be nice to be thrown a freebe.

  4. tony

    Happy Anniversary Sweetie!!!! I love you sooooooo much. XXOXOXOXOXOXOX

  5. Happy Anniversary, you two! Yes, y’all have had a pretty tough year. Some years will awful, some will be great, and most will be in-between. I’ve found that the bad years are what bring my hubby and me closest–though it doesn’t feel like it at the time. I hate that it has to be that way, but it is (for us).

    Why not do an early day every day? Then you could be the first butt on the toilet seat five days in a row!!! Of course, then you would get spoiled. πŸ™‚

    Have a great weekend with your wonderful groom! (Why did I picture horses when I wrote that sentence?)

    • We’ll just keep plugging away — thanks for the anniversary wishes. πŸ™‚

      I wish I could do an early day every day, but my bosses need more assistance late afternoon… so I have a once a week “treat” instead. heh

      I don’t know, but I wish I had a horse. hehe

  6. Caryl

    Peppermint patties? Your wedding anniversary?
    Yes, they do belong on the same list.
    Love you,

  7. Happy Anniversary! I have to say, ya’ll had the BEST wedding ever! Yeah I know I wasn’t there, but HEY, I saw the pictures.

  8. py

    Happy Anniversary! More wonderful years for both of you ahead.

  9. A very happy anniversary to you both!

  10. noonie

    Happy Anniversary…

  11. grrrace

    happy anniversary to one of the bestest couples out there! πŸ™‚