Love & Loathe — Week of 01/30


* Confrontations, setting boundaries and picking my battles. Some people seem to handle these things so naturally and easily. For me, it’s definitely a learned behavior, and something over which I agonize, strategize and analyze… and am still learning, albeit clumsily at times.

* Double standards. If it’s illegal to drive in the bicycle lane, then it should be illegal for everyone, including police officers whose shift is ending.

* My dear husband has been sick this week. A lot of men tend to become big babies when sick — whining, complaining and wanting to be waited on hand and foot (no offense if that’s you). Not Tony. He just gets very, very quiet and sleeps a lot. Normally, he has such a big personality and so much happy energy, that it’s these times, even though he’s right there, I miss him so.

* Rough days at work. They really get me down. Today was one of them. Everyone I work with was under a lot of stress today, including me. Now I’m hoping/praying everything will be OK tomorrow, and the things I delegated at the end of the day go smoothly and don’t come back around to bite me in the rear. (sigh)


* The word “cozy.” For me, it evokes the imagery of fireplaces heaped high with wood, knit blankets pulled up against the cold, hot chocolate, a good book and a loving pet on your lap. You want to make me happy during the winter season? Just tell me to stay cozy and warm…

* The weather the past couple of weeks has felt like spring here. It’s so weirdly wonderful. All the magnolia trees and flowers are blooming, with highs in the mid-70’sยฐF, and mid-40’sยฐF at night. Some refreshing showers last Sunday… what exactly is this blizzard stuff of which you people speak?

* A good post-exercise stretch session. Some stretch sessions are better than others, so I decided to track this anomaly for a few months. Surprise, surprise — I’m suspicious that the tension in my muscles, and their ability to stretch out, are related to hormonal levels throughout my cycle.

* The painting of our home is complete. Not without some challenges — apparently one of their workers fell off our patio cover and had to go to the hospital. Yikes. Oddly, after all that, our home doesn’t look any different; still the same beige, except it’s NEW beige. Whatever. I’m glad it’s done… and done after the holiday season, when it should have been scheduled in the first place.

One Last Thing:

I spent my lunch hour with this fellow one day last week. I guess he felt safe because he was quiet, just hanging out there, walking around in the grass and looking at things.

Something about birds doing birdly things makes me happy inside. Perhaps it’s the seeming simplicity of their lives, and how they welcome the new day with happiness and joy — raucously singing their unique songs (or discordant cawing, as the case may be).

I guess I wish that for everyone, including me. The ability to grasp each day with joy as it comes to us, and sing (or croak) along with the radio or music in our lives, or at least smile at those we meet.

Can we learn from the birds?



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16 responses to “Love & Loathe — Week of 01/30

  1. grrrace

    stay cozy and warm ๐Ÿ˜€ hehe.

    tell tony to get well soon!!!


  2. stacey

    i have the same experience. my husband always handles his sicknesses so well. he just sleeps it off. i would really rather take care of him ๐Ÿ™‚

    thanks for reminding me to live like the birdies. just take it as it comes. it is a good mantra for me, though not always successful. i still fret and worry anticipating the worst.

    definitely stay cozy. that sounded so nice. i want to go the cozy place too.

    • Aww, we’re blessed with “true” men. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Reminding you to take it as it comes… also a reminder to me. And stay in our cozy, warm places. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Caryl

    Take care, Tony.
    Yes, you DO know about bicycle lanes, don’t you.
    Love you,

    • I’m an expert on bicycle lanes. I eagle eye every bicycle lane in town these days. Much like after that cop blare-horned at you to “stop with all four wheels” you stopped with all four wheels for the following 10 years. ๐Ÿ˜€

  4. I also love the word cozy in the winter. Of course, I’m one of those that could speak of those blizzard things so staying warm and cozy is how I prefer to spend my winter (unless I’m riding, of course). BTW, just bookmarked your blog on my phone! Now I can check your blog from anywhere!

  5. julie

    hope tony feels better soon ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

    gah! birds freak me out!

  6. tony

    I am getting better sweetie, sorry. Love you soooooo much. :mrgreen:
    It is “mountains” weekend, yes more sleep and snuggle time with sweetie. XXOXOXOXOXOOX

  7. Yes, it is illegal even for them to drive in bike only lanes. But who will give them a ticket?
    LVPD has a complaint line for those seeing officers doing stuff like that, and officers have been reprimanded. See if your area does that, a phone picture emailed in with details might be sufficent.

    • That’s a good idea, I will have to check it out. I see them doing illegal stuff all the time. Unfortunately, for this particular one, I wasn’t quick enough to get a clear picture of the dude’s license plate. Also (thinking out loud here), couldn’t they nab me for taking a picture while driving? The hands-free law thing and all that. Huh.

  8. py

    Dear Jammie, here’s an encouraging note for you. May it help you find strength and patience to grasp each day with joy.