Needed.

My mom flies onward, ever onward, to her next destination tomorrow. The past 2 1/2 weeks have flown by on wings that I didn’t see or hear flapping.

One of the lessons I’ve learned this past week is, it seems I get so wrapped up in trying to do it all, and trying to be strong, that I don’t give anyone a chance to help me or if I do, it’s a delegation type of role. But… while I was off my feet, my mom and Tony did an incredible job keeping the pets loved, the house cleaned, and my every need met. I needed them. Two angels. No wonder I didn’t see their wings — you never see angel’s wings.

We spent some time sorting through photos that I had scanned a few years ago and saved on my hard drive. Discussing what year they belonged in, based mostly on how my brother and I were developing — were we walking? Did we have our permanent teeth yet? Looking kind of gangly, all knees and elbows in that one… and so forth.

We also went through the memory book I had given to my mom, and I delved further into some of her shorter answers to get more elaborate details. If you’ve never “interviewed” your parents or grandparents, or even a beloved aunt or uncle, I encourage you to do so. Learning their story is to learn your story… everything they’ve experienced has influenced their interaction with you.

Today was my first day back to work and it was good to be back.

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16 responses to “Needed.

  1. tony

    Go sweetie, you did a good job too. I love you soooo much. :mrgreen:

  2. Lynne

    This post made me think back to 1999. I was 2 years past my divorce and still working hard to be independent, successful as a single woman and making my own way. My best friend (whom you remind me sooooooo very much of as I’ve told you!) finally got so frustrated with me trying to do everything for myself and everyone around me, that she snapped and said these words to me: “Let me love you. Let me take care of you sometimes. Let me express my friendship and love by doing ________ for you. It’s not a sign of weakness to let someone else help you. You express your love by doing…let other express their love for you by doing for you!”

    Let the angels in your life express their love by doing. Accept it with an open and thankful heart. No one is put out or inconvenienced by taking care of you and your needs. Quite the opposite. They’re glad to be able to have something to do to put an action to their words. You get blessed, and so do they.

    • I have to say, by the end of the week, I was quite good at accepting their care. In fact, I was allowed to get up, but they made it much easier to just lie in bed. 🙂

  3. stacey

    lynne said it well. i have had to learn that lesson so many times. always trying to do everything and then at some point falling apart and realizing i should have accepted more help along the way. i can’t believe it is already tuesday and april 1st is friday. i just keep praying and praying.

  4. Lynne

    “I can’t believe it is already tuesday and april 1st is friday. i just keep praying and praying.”

    ^^^ That. I don’t think I have ever prayed as hard or unceasingly as I have been since last week.

  5. Time flies when you’re having fun. Glad you have people you can lean on when you need it.

  6. angi

    I totally love the new look! Especially the Hawaii pics! and please tell me, HOW LONG IS YOUR HAIR now? Inquiring minds want to know! lol

  7. You are in my prayers. I’m glad you have angels there to help. I am like you and never admit when I need help but it’s always wonderful when one (or two) of those angels see that and make sure they take over for a little bit. ((((HUGS)))) and prayers for you!

    • Your hugs and prayers are much appreciated.
      It was wonderful to have my angels around that I could see. I wonder how many angels are around us that we don’t see.
      You are sweet.