Love & Loathe – Week of 01/09


* When pets become high maintenance… like my fish seem to have become lately. The time and emotional burden drains me, I feel as if my priorities are all screwed up. Which, in turn, is making me evaluate whether or not I want to continue keeping them. Tony is encouraging me to keep them, but try to emotionally distance myself a bit from them. He has a point and I handled it pretty well when the albino female died abruptly last week from the fungus. But there’s still the drain of my time and I’m not sure how to get around that.

* Excel sheet misery. Honestly, people, look at the thing in “print preview” mode before you send it to someone and FIX IT so it’s printable. It really grinds to have to reformat something with 2 minutes to spare before a meeting in which the sheet is to be used.

* Scary pedestrian intersections. There’s this intersection by my work where it’s impossible to see pedestrians during early afternoon hours. The sun is squarely in driver’s faces when attempting to turn left, and the corner where pedestrians step from is heavily shaded. I know now, but the first time when I learned it, I nearly hit someone in the crosswalk. I was horrified! Since then, I’ve seen several other drivers do the same thing, with closer calls than what happened to me. I wish there was a way to warn the pedestrians.

* People who go into a public restroom and continue to talk on their cell phones.


* Crock pot cooking. I love being able to throw a 3 or 4 pound hunk of meat in the thing, a few potatoes, some veggies, leave for the day, and when I get home the house smells great and dinner is ready. So easy! Best of all, the meat is always so moist, it nearly falls apart just from looking at it.

* Having wonderful friends. I sure don’t deserve the friends that I have, but then there’s no repaying the gift of grace, is there? Two things make me mention this.

First, the HOA situation I mentioned last week, which I let stress me out beyond reason? Well, one of my lawyer friends said he’ll make a call to see if he can settle the “misunderstanding” without it escalating further. HOA law is generally kind of scuzzy law, and is so far beneath the type of law he normally practices, I feel incredibly humbled that he cares enough about me to try to resolve it for me.

Second, you guys are so amazing. I don’t know why I even doubted sharing with you a portion of my struggles. Thank you for sharing back.

One Last Thing:

We just got back from the mountains. When we visited our friends at our favorite breakfast place, Tony mentioned that he’s on a diet. The cook, Charlie, looked at him and said in disbelief, “A diet?” In a tone of voice that clearly said, why the heck are you in MY restaurant if you’re on a diet? A place that’s known for their enormous pancakes.

We got our seats at the counter and were talking about various things, all the things you talk about in a small town, shooting the breeze I believe it’s called. We had our orders in and Charlie was talking and cooking, and he turned away from the grill to get something and Tony glanced over and said, “Hey. What is that?” Charlie replied, “Nothing. Nothing at all.” And resumed his position in front of the grill, blocking what Tony had seen.

A few minutes later, with a mischievous grin on his face, Charlie placed this in front of Tony, and the entire restaurant busted out laughing. I do believe this takes the record for the smallest breakfast ever served in that restaurant… one month after the record of the largest pancake ever served.

Charlie demonstrates the size of the last pancake he created for us.

The real breakfast, served a couple minutes after the laughter subsided…

We went into town after breakfast and visited our favorite candy store, where they handmake fudge and all kinds of concoctions in there. They always have “trial” candy, and this time they had dark chocolate covered cheerios. Oh, the bliss.

We also always visit the local KMart and I found a couple pairs of jeans in my size. I tried them on and the black jeans looked fine, I thought, but the other pair I didn’t care for and couldn’t figure out why. I normally don’t involve Tony in my clothes buying decisions, but I called him over for his opinion and asked him if the black jeans made my butt look big. I love asking him that, by the way. He shook his head and said, “No, it just looks like your butt.” There might have been a bit of a leer, too, but I can’t remember for certain.

I said, “OK, let me go try the other ones on and show you.” I went in the dressing room and did the switch, came out and showed him. He was shaking his head negatively and said, “No, I don’t like those at all on you. It’s the color of the border threading. It’s just all wrong.” Basically reinforced my decision, but gave me a valid reason for it.

Grateful for an honest husband, I just had to shake my head at how weird it is that jeans from the same manufacturer, the same same size and cut, the only difference being the color, can look so vastly different on the same body.

Although a bit sad that our “free” internet access up there has disappeared, I was grateful to spend the evening watching movies together, eating popcorn and drinking hot chocolate.
The frozen lake…

It was … perfect. Exactly what we needed.



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22 responses to “Love & Loathe – Week of 01/09

  1. grrrace

    I’m so glad you had a perfect weekend. 🙂

    xoxox. Hope you to see you soon!!!!

  2. Sounds like it was a GREAT Weekend, my dear…Love that your favorite Restaurant Guy has such a good sense of humor…!
    It is odd about those jeans, but I know exactly what you mean—And I don’t know why that would be true, either…lol!

    I understand being stessed out by a pets illness….When Sweetie had to have his MEDS 7 days a wek for months, and I never knew whwn the young woman from the Hospital would come—it was a different time every day, etc., etc….I thought I was going to lose my mind. And if I could have given him these pills myself, believe me, I would have….We are now down to three days a week, and it has made a BIG difference for him and for me….I’m not sure I could distance myself from the emotional aspect of what I feel for Sweetie….So, I can empathize with you about how hard it is with your fish. Good Luck with that dilemma, my dear.

    • Oh dear… I knew your Sweetie was sick, but I had no idea you had someone coming to take care of him! Poor him. Poor you!
      Tony pointed out that the fish aren’t snuggleable like the cats and the birds are. It does make a difference, I suppose, in some ways. It’s still hard. But I think I need to learn how so that the knot of dread inside of me goes away. Best for my own health.

  3. You always seem more at ease after your mountain getaways. It’s like a balm for your soul. Yes, you do need to ease up on your emotional attachment to your fish. I’ve caught myself doing that over a plant even, and it’s not good. Good luck with the HOA thing and I’m glad your friends have your back.

    • You noticed that about the mountain getaways? 🙂
      Oh, I’m attached to my plants, too. (sigh)
      Sometimes it’s so challenging to love living things.

  4. tinyhands

    I can’t wait until you retire and live up in the mountains all year long. That way it’ll be easier to wrap up some of those choco-cheerios and send them to me. I’m quite certain that they were gone by the time you got home. (if not, they should have been!)

    • Those cheerios were the first thing I ate!
      It really messed up my candy routine, too. Because I had an extra piece of candy to eat while passengering down the mountain. I usually eat the chocolate caramel pretzel stick down the mountain, but instead I had a chocolate almond cluster AND a chocolate caramel pretzel stick. Tony was weirded out, too!

  5. look at the cute lil breakfast… I could demolish that right now… hubby doing impressions of a jackhammer snoring.. and I can’t sleep….

    I love Mountain posts….

    • Awww… hope your husband stops with the snoring already. It’s been DAYS now! hehe

      You love the mountain posts, I love the mountain experience! 🙂

  6. I enjoy shopping with my wife when she tries stuff on. Almost everything looks really good on her so, like Tony, I don’t have to pretend my lady doesn’t look fine!

    The tiny breakfast is a hoot! Love a cook with a sense of humor! Glad you guys had a great weekend.

    • Those guys at that restaurant all have a great attitude and are such fun to “hang” with. It’s special.

      😆 Maybe I should give Tony the option to tag along on my try-on ventures?

  7. No (free) internet access can be such a blessing! It sounds like you had a great weekend.

    I sympathize with you on the sick animals. I’ve started to get my the “emotionally distancing” pattern with my cat, Beau (if that’s possible with an almost-16-year-old cat). Right now he’s just taking pills, but he’s also gone from 20 lbs. to 5 in just over two years, so I know the worst is yet to come. Not looking forward to it.

    I love the pancake story and pics! Normally I tell you to have a good weekend in my “Love and Loathe” comments, but today I guess I’ll tell you to have a good week!

    • Oh my goodness… poor Beau. It is so hard to know what’s coming. (sigh) I’m so sorry. I know well how that goes.

      No Internet was compensated for nicely by the tiny pancake hilarity, for sure. 🙂

  8. Caryl

    Wonder if you can’t call the city on that pedestrian danger. Maybe they would put up signs for both the left turner and the peds.
    I called the city once and asked if a curb could be painted red where cars were parking and making it impossible to see oncoming cars when pulling out into the street. They deemed that my concern was legitimate. Your call could save an accident or a life.

    Choc cheerios–yum!
    Love you,

    • Just one more thing to do… and city people are so difficult to get in touch with, not to mention it would just further my reputation as the crazy lady who has nothing better to do, when really it’s because I care too much. Is it possible to care too much? Oy.

      Chocolate anything, yum! 🙂

  9. glad you guys were able to get-a-way for a bit … nice to have that time . .. and i loved the pics of the diet pancakes!!!! made me chuckle …

    blessings on ya!

    • It was lovely and the rest was much needed.
      Did I mention that I was the one who ended up eating the diet pancakes? hehe
      Funnier yet, a few months ago, Charlie was complaining because someone asked him to make his pancake smaller for their oder and he was over there muttering, “Small pancake? I don’t know HOW to MAKE a small pancake.” And then he turned out these miniatures for Tony. So funny!


  10. Yay for “diet” pancakes and chocolate cheerios!

    I want to get away to the mountains… oh wait I’m already in the mountains… maybe I should get away to the city? lol.

    I’m thinking of you, praying for you my friend 🙂

  11. py

    Looks like your favourite breakfast place really is very thoughtful. Most importantly, I like the way your post ended with lots of people and things to be grateful for!